Lorin is an educator looking to start critical conversations. And it’s safe to say she knows a thing or two about Fraternity and Sorority Life.
She’s been involved since entering college, and has continued to make a career with Sigma Sigma Sigma Sorority. She’s worked as a traveling consultant, Director of Chapter Services and now works as the Assistant Executive Director. Lorin’s hands are deep into the hearts of collegiate chapters, and she’s seen it all. Dedicated to bettering the Greek system—her first mission is to tackle the issue of hazing.
“Lorin Philips is an expert in engaging all those who hear her speak. She celebrates beliefs, validates values, and challenges, then rectifies, the disconnect caused by poor decision making, thereby enhancing effective and impactful risk management. Audience members react to her and know they can change their corner of the world.”
– Laura Sweet, East Carolina University
“My chapter was extremely lucky to have worked with Lorin so closely in the past year. She is truly an amazing individual, and an amazing representation of what a Tri Sigma should be. Lorin spoke to our chapter about Hazing Prevention, Chapter Organization Methods, Fierce Conversations, and much more. Not only is she is an upbeat and enthusiastic speaker, she is quite funny and delivers a message that young adults can relate to.”
– Vanessa Paige, Tri Sigma, Epsilon Sigma
“One thing that I always admire about Lorin is her ability to capture a room and quickly earn their respect and trust. Even when she has to talk about tough topics she easily reigns in a group and knows when to switch back and forth between serious conversations and having fun with participants. Lorin is an energetic, confident and professional speaker no matter the topic and any audience will enjoy hearing her.”
– Anna Todaro, University of Richmond
How Women Haze
Sorority women are the best of the best. They are socially networked, do well academically and give back to the community. They form close bonds in sisterhood, dominate Greek Week and look out for one another professionally after graduation. They share in beautiful traditions and rituals, and they are there for one another when life gets truly hard. So how is it that these caring, compassionate women can become “mean girls”, and create a culture where a myriad of hazing activities are considered acceptable? Why do bystanders tolerate the hazing treatment of their sisters? Why are intelligent, confident new members asking to be hazed? Something doesn’t add up. With weak communication skills at the base of most hazing issues, Lorin brings into clear view the daily interactions that lead to pain, embarrassment and alienation. These relationship skills are almost certainly lacking in a pro-hazing chapter. This program isn’t your typical “after school special” on hazing prevention. Lorin first examines the types of hazing that exist in a chapter and helps give warning signs to zoom in on those hazers who may be at work in your organization. Lorin discusses reasons these hazing activities exist and challenges members to find replacements for those actions. Lorin’s sharp, witty tone puts forth an otherwise difficult topic with grace and honesty. Exposing herself as both the hazer and the hazee in the past, allows Lorin to go no-holds-barred on the stories and experiences she shares. Students walk away from Lorin with a renewed sense of hope for the Greek system, and the spark to create some change within their chapters and community. A great option for a sorority hazing presentation, Greek Week or National Hazing Prevention Week. But, Lorin can also speak to a variety of women’s groups.
As a result of attending this program, students will learn:
- Using example and stories, define various types of “female hazers” so participants may integrate new actions and behaviors into the more traditional list of hazing behaviors.
- Describe the evolution of our perspectives on hazing from freshman to senior so women can apply the information to their current situation and better understand others’ views.
- Provide a variety of ways to take action when a participant recognizes behaviors or traditions which are of concern.
Life Doesn’t Come with a Sober Sister (Brother, Designated Driver)
These days, it seems like there are two kinds of students on a Friday night – the ones who party and the ones who take care of those who party. Most students can talk very intelligently about alcohol and its potential impact, yet they willingly put their safety in the hands of a friend who might or might not have the ability to help them on any given night. Perhaps your sorority designates “sober sisters,” or your group of friends always has a designated driver. Maybe you’re the person who always volunteers to make sure things stay somewhat under control. Maybe you’re the leader who feels responsible for the safety of your friends, teammates, brothers or sisters. Whether you’re the drinker, the sober wingman, or some of both, it’s important that real conversations happen about being safe and making the best choices. Life doesn’t really come with a sober sister. As convenient as it might be to make someone else responsible for your safety, we all know that eventually, we have to make responsible decisions for ourselves, or we risk facing some significant unintended consequences. Having a responsible friend is one strategy, but it’s not often enough. In this program, Lorin will talk about how we can all encourage greater personal responsibility so that we can ALL enjoy the social environment on our campus safely and securely. If you’ve ever seen things get out of hand, or if you’ve ever been the friend trying to keep a lid on things, you will appreciate this program that encourages everyone to take responsibility for themselves – instead of putting all the responsibility on others.
As a result of attending this program, students will learn:
- This is not an anti-drinking program. It is a program focused on safety and if you choose to drink, how to make good choices.
- Define how basic alcohol information (drink strength, BAC, etc.) can be used as strategies for safety.
- Debunk myths on common pride points related to college drink such as tolerance.
- Call to action to apply alcohol basics to their regular alcohol consumption patterns (or challenge/support their peers in their better choices).
- Describe techniques to self-monitor.
- Encourage personal responsibility even during special occasions.
Fierce Confrontation: Compassionate, Strategic Leadership for Difficult Situations
Difficult situations crop up in student organizations all the time—members who don’t uphold the policies and values of the organization, take chances with their health and safety and represent the organization poorly. Negative behaviors which go un-addressed oftentimes persist until a tough conversation happens. That’s when Lorin Phillips advises that you “get fierce!” Confrontations become fierce when we are grounded in our values and in understanding around what makes difficult conversations difficult. In this empowering keynote, Lorin digs deep into the pitfalls surrounding difficult conversations, so that students are better able to navigate these exchanges and emerge with desired outcomes. Students will walk away with a toolbox of tactics to apply in any given conversation to challenge the process and come to an agreement on next steps for the relationship. Finally, Lorin will aide students in developing skills to begin critical conversations for community change. Let Lorin bring this results-oriented keynote to your campus, or ask for it as an add-on workshop. Either way, students will walk away feeling empowered and confident to address the problems happening in their organizations. Let Fierce Confrontation be the catalyst for change in your community!
To empower students to confront difficult issues by:
- Grounding themselves in their values.
- Defining 3 types of conversations.
- Describing what makes conversations difficult.
- Identifying common pitfalls to avoid in our communication.
- Understanding contributing factors which make conversations even more difficult.
- Providing a framework for having difficult conversations.
What’s going on in your chapter? Is it time for a Chapter Check-in? A good chapter is happy where they are, but a great chapter is always looking for ways to elevate what they are doing and have an even greater impact. What do your members value in their membership and how can you add more value to your community? Lorin uses a proactive, values-based approach to take chapters to the next level. She will show you how planning now will allow you to build on your strengths instead of just solving problems that come up. She offers her perspectives and then facilitates group dialogue so everyone’s solutions can be used to create the best version of their chapter.
Lorin received her Bachelor of Science in Integrated Science and Technology from James Madison University in 2002. She traveled for her sorority, Sigma Sigma Sigma, as a Leadership Consultant before becoming the Director of Chapter Services. She has worked for Tri Sigma as the Director of Chapter Services for 10 years and now serves as the Assistant Executive Director. Lorin obtained a Master of Education in Adult Learning and Human Resource Development from James Madison University in 2007. In addition to her staff responsibilities, she has volunteered as a Project Manager for the national organization, local Chapter Advisor and volunteers with HazingPrevention.org. She is also a member of the Association of Fraternity Advisors and Order of Omega. In 2005, Lorin was the recipient of the Order of Omega Masters Fellowship. Through her work with Tri Sigma, Lorin conducts risk management investigations and membership reviews, and serves the Programming Committee, Strategic Planning Committee, and Web Development and Planning Team. During her time with Tri Sigma she has conducted over 100 risk management investigations and 15 membership reviews. In addition, she has been integral to revising their member accountability process and incorporating technology into their social event and risk management policy education programs.